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Post  Sly Guy on Tue Nov 18, 2008 7:37 pm

Ok, I need advice. This has nothing to do with RPs and stuff. This is real life.

Well, there's this girl. And I like her. A lot. An unexplainable amount. I hang out with her a lot, and...I just always want to be with her. I've liked her since we were little kids.

My best friend used to think it was weird that I liked her and say things like "Why do you like that chick?" and things along the lines.

Well, now, starting this year, he likes her too. And she likes him. And I don't know what to do.

Now really, if they went out, I would be crushed. Completely. I couldn't hang out with either of them.

But at the same time, all I want is for her to be happy.

What the hell do I do?

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Post  RussianMan on Tue Nov 18, 2008 7:54 pm

I had the same problem when I was, well, 12... I would suggest that you be direct and tell her. Even if it doesn't change her mind it will take a lot of the awquardness away, atleast for me it did. Remember, whatever age you are, you still have a long life ahead and I gaurentee you, in a few years give or take you will feel the same if not better about another girl. I know it seems weird having to do it but trust me, it will get just worse when you get older-er.

Honestly, if you don't tell her, the relationship will probally end up in the trash in a couple of weeks anyways, thats when you can "comfort" her and make your "move" Hehe.


Yeah it was wierd giving the advice aswell, but that is a very effective way for the current situation atleast for my record, good luck dude!
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Post  Sly Guy on Tue Nov 18, 2008 8:09 pm

(I'm in highschool, btw)

The thing is, I'm not sure if I WILL feel this way about someone else. It's the strangest feeling. I just think about her all the time.

I'm not calling it 'love' though. I would feel childish and ignorant upon doing so.

Thanks for the advice though.

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Post  RussianMan on Tue Nov 18, 2008 8:16 pm

I gaurentee you, you do not think that you will ever "Like" a girl the same way, but that's reasonable thinking for Highschool, just trust me that you will, it happens in everyones life, I thought that way once but now I know better. It makes it much easier when you break-up if you have this in your mind. Doesn't mean it doesn't still hurt...
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Post  Molach! on Tue Nov 18, 2008 8:47 pm

I agree with Kitty, just say something!

(btw, I don’t think it is a strange place to ask advice. )
(in my opinion, there is no one better to ask advice from than someone don't know.)
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Post  Razor23 on Wed Nov 19, 2008 3:58 am

Your friend likes the same girl? If he is your friend he would do nothing with her but if he does he is a traitor!

Try to talk to him and to her. Say what you fell, it is better to know if something would happen rather than asking yourself "What would had happened if I had spoke to her??".
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Post  Sly Guy on Wed Nov 19, 2008 2:41 pm

Well, she knows that I like her, but I don't think she knows how it would hurt me if she dated my friend.

And my friend is a bit of an asshole. She thinks that he is sweet and all, but he's not.


The thing is, she actually likes being around me more than him. I don't get it.

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Post  Cold kill on Wed Nov 19, 2008 3:51 pm

Well im my opinion of being the best freind of the friends that have this problem, she wont go out with either of you. BUT DONT GET YOUR SELF DOWN NOW Just take everyones advice, and tell her how you fell, in fact tell them both, JUST to avoid a fight later on if she picks you over him. Dude, if i was you, i would ask her out...like right now...as your reading this. But thats just me, do what ever fells best for you to do.
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Post  Wolfie on Thu Nov 20, 2008 9:52 am

The three way love connection. That's always a toughee.

Sly, I see you have a big prediciment on your hands. The best advise that I can give is this: Don't turn it into a killer competion over her. It's the fastest way to lose them both.

Talk to your friend in private, talk to her in private, have your friend talk to her in private, then have all of you talk together at the same time. (Order doesn't matter as long as the group talk is last.)

The entire time, keep your cool. Never raise your voice and never get angry. If you can't stay calm, ask to get away for a few minutes.

This method (in my opinion) is best. Just talk to each other, try to understand each others ideas, opinions, and feelings, and eventually you'll figure something out.
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Post  Molach! on Thu Nov 20, 2008 1:55 pm

Wolfie wrote:The entire time, keep your cool. Never raise your voice and never get angry. If you can't stay calm, ask to get away for a few minutes.

you are making it sound like they are going to kill each other...

as i understand it, they arn't even dating yet.

just tell your friend how you feel about her (if he does't already know).
no need to stay calm, he needs to see that you mean it.
you can get him to back off, or atleased give your friendship a better change off surviving this.

then tell her how you feel.
you better stay calm here. (I can't see why you would yell here though)

the rest will work itself out...
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Post  Sly Guy on Thu Nov 20, 2008 3:20 pm

Well, this girl is really making the ultimate decision between looks and personality. Not saying I look all that bad, but my friend in question is a six pack wielding, blonde hair, blue eyed, quarterback. But she clearly likes me as a person more than him. I don't know, I'll see how things work out. Thanks guys.

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Post  Cold kill on Thu Nov 20, 2008 8:12 pm

yeah man, KICK HIS ASS.....whoops that just kind of sliped out. But, really, avoid a fight at all cost man, best thing you can do because then you might still be friends after this rolls over.
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Post  RussianMan on Sat Nov 22, 2008 4:55 pm

The best thing you could possibly do is declare your friend a Nazi on the school intercom then shout, Sieg Hiel! In his face. I am sure no woman wants to date a Nazi, atleast now...
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Post  Sly Guy on Sat Nov 22, 2008 5:14 pm

lol, listen, he isn't going to date her. Problem solved.

He realized (Before I did, fully) that I was in love with this girl.

I can't explain it. I'd give anything to have her, but at the same time, because I know I never will, I would give anything to just get her out of my fucking head.

I can't go three minutes without thinking about her. And it's actually just pissing me off.

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Post  Wolfie on Sat Nov 22, 2008 9:59 pm

Now you're confusing ME. You love this girl to death, and now you hate yourself for it?
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Post  RussianMan on Sat Nov 22, 2008 11:30 pm

Wolfie it makes perfect sense. It is like, loving Shrimp but thinking it's disgusting! Makes sense!
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Post  Sly Guy on Sun Nov 23, 2008 8:41 am

yeah, I wasn't sure if that would make sense or not.

Don't get me wrong, I still love the girl, I just wish I didn't. Because I know I'll never be able to have her.

Make sense? Probably not. Oh well.

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Post  Wolfie on Mon Nov 24, 2008 9:47 am

So are you saying she's actually rejected you? Or that you feel she will if you try.
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Post  Sly Guy on Mon Nov 24, 2008 5:37 pm

WOW! Ok, I guess the probably might be solved. I always thought she knew I liked her and that she was just rejecting me, but it turns out she didn't know. I just went on a limb and sent her a text that said "I love you"

And she didn't believe I was serious, but when she found out I was, she said she felt the same way.

And I told my friend about it, and he just felt happy for me.

So yeah, hopefully all is good.

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Post  Razor23 on Tue Nov 25, 2008 6:03 am

cheers cheers cheers cheers cheers cheers cheers cheers cheers cheers cheers cheers

Nice!!! I am happy too...I wish the best for you!!!
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Post  Cold kill on Tue Nov 25, 2008 1:14 pm

good job, now i hope you have a job cause girls are expinsive... Cool
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Post  Free2ryhme on Wed Nov 26, 2008 10:53 am

Of course girls are expensive duh, lemme explain.

Fe- You always have to pay a fee when it comes to females.

Male- The male always (I mean it) Pays.

Girls are to expensive, but, trust me when I say this. 1 girl is less expensive then 2. I was playing to girls, and when they found out...... Shocked

But, glad things worked out before I gave you crappy advice. But I always figure things will work out eventually hwne I'm in the same predicament.
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Post  RussianMan on Wed Nov 26, 2008 3:26 pm

Yeah, Girls may be expensive but don't always buy them what they want, buy them some things just not everything or they will walk all over you. Even though they may still be expensive, your still getting something in return. (WINK WINK)
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Post  Free2ryhme on Wed Nov 26, 2008 6:40 pm

Exactly, Laughing

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Post  CasketGrinder23 on Wed Nov 26, 2008 6:44 pm

Yeah well at least he ain't like me, I have to wait NINE DAMN MONTHS FOR THAT!!! Crying or Very sad pale Crying or Very sad

You seem like a cool guy though Sly, So I wish you the best of luck dude...

RIP sly_guy, I knew him well! JK
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